College! How time flies since I first entered university six years ago(!!!) and exited a little over two years ago.

I feel inspired to write this because a lot of my former students are freshmen college this school year. And I keep telling them it's a whole different ball park! Although we have the COVID-19 pandemic which unfortunately is stealing away the valuable experiences all freshmen out there should be experiencing moments during the first time they set foot in university, I just want to create this guide for when all this is over. I feel positive, despite the pessimistic outlook this virus is giving globally, that someday there will be a time that moments lost will be made up for.

In this country, everyone seems so obsessed with university ranks and how they equate to a real college experience. Regardless of your university's ranking, your college life and how you breeze through it is not dependent on that. It's how YOU take the wheel because they're not kidding when they say while college is a time to enjoy before you face the real world, it's still crucial preparation for the real world.


1. Take your studies seriously!

First day of classes in DLSU back in May 2014!

I think we've all been told this in different wordings possible: college is NOT cheap so study hard. And looking back, I totally agree! I know it sounds corny but one of the reasons I really tried to strive in my academics in college was because of my Dad since he was the one who really worked to raise my siblings and I and I definitely grew up seeing that struggle. Not all kids appreciate their parents' efforts but in college, it's about time you do and you should do that by studying! It makes spending on the education worthy for your parents AND yourself which I will explain a little further later.

Why study hard? Because if you plan to apply for work after graduating, one of the requirements is your TRANSCRIPT OF RECORDS! This is where your grades during your whole stay in college will be stated. While some employers just accept the transcript as proof you actually graduated college, some industries really do take a look at your grades! I will never forget that time I was once asked during a job interview why I had a grade of 0 in a crucial English class. (However, I was able to retake the subject and get a perfect grade which in my school's grading system was able to remove the 0 grade in other records but since this is a transcript of each step I had in college, it will remain there).

I feel like this is also the time to practice discipline for adulting and having a good study routine is one way to start!

Also, were you also the type who did mediocre or even failed in highschool but dream of that laude? College is definitely a chance for redemption but only if you work hard! I had a friend who was running for summa and is brilliant in his economics program but he would tell me how in highschool, he often failed math subjects! I also know someone who had to take a reconsideration exam to get into DLSU but studied hard during his stay and graduated with a latin honor. It's possible, guys!

2. But remember this is a time to have a little fun and to experiment!

Attend parties if there are, go out with your friends once in a while after finishing your school requirements (but I know you'll experience a few times in your college life that you will be wasted or choose to party over doing school work BUT PLEASE BE RESPONSIBLE), and take all the memorable trips you can with them if you can! Friends you have in college could be the friends you have in your lifetime so try to make it as memorable with them as you can! Something as simple as having dinner together in a fastfood joint or having a bottle of beer when the school week ends counts, too!

I've definitely had those fun nights in the bars and clubs

Also, since probably you don't have the same constraints as you experienced during your highschool years, this is time also to go out but be wise about it! You have to always keep aware of your surroundings and also tell a loved one where you are at all times! Safety first !

Having fun doesn't just mean partying or hanging out with friends. College is the best time to discover what you like. Maybe your school will offer classes for painting or will have movie nights free for students. Or if your school has those yearly school fairs and concerts, attend! Even if it gets so hot and crowded--even only once just for the experience.

Also remember to decide wisely when having fun. It's easy to be carried away because you're young and you're still learning but remember the precautions always and always remember the consequences.

And when I say experiment, now is the best time also! Unless your school has a strict dress code, you can experiment with fashion and your beauty look! I definitely took a risk before from dying my hair blond to wearing miniskirts to wearing wild colored lipsticks!

Yes, I used to be a blonde. Dyed it ash and blue once, too!

3. Spend within your means and your priorities!!!

It only takes milktea to be happy!!!

In college, it's unavoidable that you'll meet people you love hanging out with but sometimes, you will find yourself spending more to keep up. Or school requirements are just so expensive and you will sometimes not fulfill them because you just HAVE to go with your circle's flow!

Here are some things you can do: you can budget wisely and choose to do measures that will allow you to save such as bringing baon or setting a spending limit daily and putting aside a portion of your allowance in your savings. Or you can just admit to yourself that you just can't level yourself with who you hang out with. In college, I bring baon and I admit to people I hang out with that I can't eat out with them because I have to spend on other things or I have to spend the whole day out of the house. Maybe they won't find it cool but real friends understand your plight!

There is nothing to be ashamed of for me in buying P25, buy 1 take 1 burgers for my baon or bringing a can of something with packed rice. Or when I try to find the latest trends in the ukays instead of shopping in the mall (which I can't afford to do regularly back in college) or commuting when a number of people I'm friends with have never rode the train nor jeep. But I do know how to allocate my money on hangouts or nightouts with friends or on expensive projects for school.

Funny story about my grad photos and yearbook is I only got them after a year since I graduated because I could only afford the down payment option of it when I was an undergrad. I only paid the rest when I started working lol

4. Have a good relationship with your profs 

I will tell you how important it is to always stay civil and on the good side of your profs always. I'm not saying you should kiss their asses but definitely you should never outright disrespect them. Sure there are just some who are absolutely unreasonable and are definitely worth reporting the administration about if they are just that difficult or doing what's beyond their duties already but I have seen classmates before who just simply enter late on purpose or make faces when the professors scold them or don't apologize for anything at all. First few weeks of the semester and you should already learn that staying humble and following their class rules will spare you from inconvenience of experiencing wrath in the future.

But what if the prof just really is so difficult? Then just do the best you can do in class. You can also ask upperclassmen who have experienced the same as you for tips on how they survived.

Someday, especially when you pursue the field you want after you graduate, you might tap them for help. Or maybe you need an endorsement letter for graduate studies. It's good to have a professor you not only trust and sincerely admire as an educator but someone who can see the best in you especially when you can respect their authority when you were still a student.


5. JOIN ORGS!!!!!!

I can't stress this enough! Join organizations that embody either your personal interests or your program! And if you can, join as much as you can handle. You can choose to be active and hang out with your orgmates so you have more friends to hang out with. Also, the importance of orgs is also the guidance you get especially if you're an officer or part of their executive board. In DLSU, organizing org events is a headache but it taught me responsibility and also gave me an insight to how red tape works (Yes, our school isn't as chill when it comes to organizing events. There are guidelines to follow and documents to submit before and after the event, from financial statements to activity proper--you name it!).

I joined a writing org which held a songwriting seminar (which I also helped in organizing since) that featured Rico Blanco and Raymund Marasigan (FANGIRLING AS IN THIS DAY)

Joining orgs will also open experiences that will be beyond your comfort zone yet useful to who you are growing into as a person. It could teach you about leadership and about serving not only your fellow students but also the country. You can join your school's political parties or advocacy organizations such as Gabriela and Anakbayan or your college's fraternities and sororities. Just remember that as with all these organizations I mentioned, join because you are sincerely interested and feel it will help you grow and not because it is out of peer pressure.

One of my favorite team buildings with my orgmates in the Lasallian Scholar Society

6. Take any great opportunity when it's offered to you!

College offers some random opportunity just waiting to be accepted. Maybe that opportunity is for you to run for student council or maybe join that pageant or seeing an opening for a get-together of people the same fandom as you! Opportunity is everywhere and you should be brave enough to take it especially when it's offered to you. Just remember to not mistake opportunities that you know will improve you whether in ways related to your program or future profession or not as "opportunities" you just feel you're pressured to accept and eventually regret big time such as questionable investments and business start ups (pyramid scheming seems to be common) or you choose to run for student government because you're popular or want to gain traction when you can't even serve the student body.

One of the opportunities I had in college was assistant vice president and then acting vice president for research in one of my organizations. This is one of the events my team organized which involved mangrove planting and snorkeling.

Some opportunities are big and life-changing while others are small and unassuming but nevertheless, both are still experiences! I guess some opportunities I was proud to take was assisting amazing professors in the linguistics field. I also considered taking a seminar that was assigned to my block for grade credit but no one seemed interested in as another unexpected opportunity: a story telling seminar for kids organized by UP!

Yes, I was that non-Iska who took a picture in the famous EDUK letters in Benitez Hall! I was the only person brave enough in my block to go to the seminar, which I had tons of fun in and actually still use those storytelling strategies in teaching both kids and highschool

7. Make friendships that count!

In highschool, I never really had super close friends in my school because I was heavily bullied and felt people enabled that environment. I vowed in college, I will make so much friends and have lots of them. During the first day of freshmen orientation, I ended up being everyone's first friend in the university because I would just introduce myself and talk. It's important to keep friendships! Sure, as you get older and I experienced firsthand that a lot of my friendships in college are not there anymore as I decided to spread my wings in the real world but at least in those moments, I felt the friendship mattered.

In college, friends come and go. Maybe you will make enemies or your bestfriend one day will be a total stranger the next. But do open yourself enough to the possibility that some of the friends you keep for a lifetime are there. Maybe you did't feel the need because you already had longtime friends prior to entering college but it's nice to also have solid ones out of your usual group. Real friends will stick by you through thick and thin and at the same time, also allow you to grow during and after college.

Just some of my college friends I consider my rock

It's definitely cool to have lots of friends but having a solid group of friends from college who are experiencing what you're experiencing, whether the group is big or small, is something you should keep. They could be your blockmates, your orgmates, or maybe a mix of different personalities from all corners of the university (or out!). Solid friends are timeless and I'm absolutely grateful for mine because I moved with different circles and had lots of friends in college since I liked going out but in the end, I ended up maturing and wanting much more structured goals in life when they don't seem to understand why I can't be as reckless anymore(Another thing you should expect: not all friendships break off because of arguments. People just simply drift away as we grow older). My solid group has been there for me through my freshman days, hardcore partying days, depressive dark days, and then even until now during my more calmer adult days.


8. LANDI RESPONSIBLY!!!!!!

I seriously do hate them because I don't get fooled by them and neither should you

OF COURSE, I WON'T LEAVE THIS OUT!

As much as your parents want that you don't, a number of you will probably date around, meet people you like, and eventually fall in love. I know some of you are either looking for something fun and temporary or real and longterm. I was in those shoes once, too! I say go ahead and get to know someone and see wherever it leads! If you want to date every fish in the sea, go for it. If you want to wait for the right one, that's okay too. Just remember that your love--or landi--life is not the sole purpose of why you are in college. You''re there for yourself. If you feel heartbroken, be with your friends and cry your heart out! But don't allow yourself to wallow in pain to the point that your performance in school ends up going poorly.

Believe me, I've heard the horror stories of how one will just allow themselves to skip classes and fail school because of heartache. School may not be the number one thing you will think about when you deal with heartache but remember that even if you feel you don't have motivation, you still have the capability anyway so don't make excuses to stop doing the best for you the way he/she did to you!

When my college sweetheart and first love broke off with me, I cried my heart out and even called in sick for the first time in my whole college life the next day because I got so weak but the day after that sick leave, I went to school in all black, wearing a little black dress; wore my face with full makeup (Which I rarely did in college compared to now); strutted a weird way with sunglasses; and FAKED POWER. Even if I still wanted to curl up and cry, choose to go on with your life for yourself and accept some people don't stay forever! I think accepting how a guy I once thought I'd spend the rest of my life with won't be in my future is one of the strongest things I did.

But if you're up for only a fling or even (*makes sign of the cross*) casual hookups, I won't stop you. Just remember, make sure the other person who you have it with understands the terms between you both (that in the end, one of you won't get hurt lol) and be mature and speak up about it if it leads to something you don't want it to be. Also, use protection please!

But if you're in a happy relationship, always remember that it should not distract you from your priorities. In fact, a happy relationship is also a healthy one that will still allow you to grow and learn by yourself in your own challenges in college.



9. Discover yourself ❤

Cheesy as it sounds but college is a time you have to find who YOU really are and how you can empower that during your whole university stay. Maybe you have goals in mind which you can start working on to see if it's meant for you in the long-run. Maybe you will discover a passion that will change your life forever and be a game changer for you. Maybe you discover your program is meant for you or isn't for you at all. This is the time you get to shape-shift yourself to the true being you're meant to be while using the lessons only college can provide you. Sometimes, you don't need those four years to accomplish who you really want to be because maybe there are things standing in your way, such as your parents or maybe a scholarship. At least when you know what is meant for you, you're only left to decide to push through with it once you get out to the real world after you leave university.

One of the things I discovered in college is how much I respected and adored teaching. I know I chose this course. I know the idea of teaching is interesting for me but I have never seen myself being much more than that until I started actually teaching and studying to be a teacher. I also fell more in love with writing and reading. I think it's realizing other things I also wanted besides my passion for teaching that made me fearless to pursue writing after college even if I had no solid campus journalism experience with a school paper in my time at DLSU.

One of the valuable lessons I learned is also loving the country more. I had a brilliant prof who ignited the nationalism I already had in me so when I left DLSU, I was adamant to make a difference here than leave the country as I planned originally.

This young girl here, although she knows she is determined to go after goals she wants to achieve and is vivacious enough to have a lot of friends, hasn't really left her shell totally. And when I mean shell, not that she isn't confident but she hasn't reached the point where she feels she is most herself.

I cannot guarantee that your college life now as an innocent freshman until your last undergrad moments before getting your diploma will be smooth-sailing. I have to admit that a lot of the advice I'm giving comes from mistakes I've done myself or observed from others. I cannot promise that everything will be pure joy. There will be a lot of growing pains, a lot of tears, and a ton of moments where you feel you just want to give up but you're never placed in a challenge you can't handle. ❤